So really, after all of these words what I am trying to explore is my commitment to a peaceful process. So quickly, when I decide to take on a new challenge do I often abandon my intention of a peaceful process. Fear of failure, fear of loss, fear of the unknown make me hold tighter, be more rigid, set a bar that I am not even sure I want to meet, and because it becomes a fear driven process, rather than a curious process, I often fail to reassess, likely missing important tweaks that might be needed along the way. With a nose to the ground attitude we surely miss out on other better opportunities along the way, or perhaps better and g-d forbid different ways of accomplishing what we originally set out to. We leave little room to change our mind, even if its for the better. As the quote above says, we must remain vulnerable throughout the process. It is this very vulnerability that will enhance our chances of the best outcome. When we are suffering, we lose this vulnerability for sure.
So perhaps that is our answer to the question…We know we have gone too far, pushed too hard when we fail to hold on to our vulnerability, our ability to remain flexible and adaptive.