As I sit here 9+ months pregnant and wait for my life to change completely, I watch the weeks, days, and sometimes minutes go by wondering, “will this be the day?” I am living in limbo.
You have lived in limbo before. You have waited for that job offer to come through, waited for that special someone to call, waited for your boss to finally make a decision about your position or salary…we have all waited.
I have always struggled to “live in the moment” as every great yogi, spiritual advisor, and people who get “it” demand of us. To be happy “they” tell us, we must live in the moment. But to me, ‘living in the moment’ asks me to let go of my plans, and without a plan I feel lost and vulnerable…anything could happen!
I think that living in limbo is often the closest I can get to living in the moment. In order to do this, I must name it. “I am currently in a sate of limbo, so I am giving myself permission to not be certain…about anything, my plan, is to not have so many plans. I am going to ease up (just for now) on career goals, self-improvement, social obligations, the way I think my day or week “should” go. I might even leave that dish in the sink overnight. It feels a bit like floating,
What does it mean to embrace limbo? It means I give myself so much more permission! It’s like an emotional honesty pass. When people ask me to commit to social obligations, I respond with “I will see how I feel.” While I still have a calendar that is often broken down into 30-minute tasks throughout the day, I look at it as a suggested way I could spend my time…not a do or die “to–do-list”.
I realize that most of my “must do’s” are not musts at all, and that while I could never live in limbo forever, I could also burn out if I always operated in full steam. To find our middle ground, we can try living in limbo for a day, a week, a month, a year….ect.
How to love your Limbo:
1. Recall a time in your life you were waiting. Think about how you spent that time. Did you embrace your limbo, or did you fight it? Ask yourself what you might have done differently and try it TODAY.
2. What are the benefits of living in limbo? What could you give yourself permission to do if you were not set on being certain?
Cheers to your Limbo!