Fear of Failure



a :a failing to perform a duty or expected action

b:a falling short

Play: verb

a : recreational activity; especially the spontaneous activity of children

b : absence of serious or harmful intent

Hi Folks!

Welcome to my second newsletter from Inspired Direction Consulting.  The intent of this newsletter is to provide you with Inspiring, Positive, and Motivating information.  It is a free resource that I hope you will find useful.

As some of you know I am pregnant with my first child. I often daydream how it will be to parent this young person and help guide them through this world.  What will I want to arm them with? What kind of tools will I want them to have?

The topic of failure is one that comes up allot for many of my clients, a topic I have continued to address in my own life, and a topic that I can’t help but connect to the many years I spent working with young children.  Many of us have heard about the importance of play in a child’s life.  Many say that ‘play’ is a child’s job.  What we call “child’s play,” we could easily call “child’s failure,” (you can picture a child learning to walk and falling/failing over and over again)…but that sounds negative so we don’t, we call it play.

Something my clients and I work on is identifying why (and if) the idea of failure is so horrible.  In our heads, the idea of failure can feel catastrophic, life ending, and destitute, however when we take the time to think about what we are willing to risk…getting it “wrong” the first time, or even the second or third time might not result with such life crumbling effects after all.  Often we realize we are afraid of what people will think of us if we don’t “get it right.”  Then we must ask ourselves, is this fear of being seen imperfect worth not going after our dreams?  How long will we let fear be an immobilizer?  Who are we waiting for permission from?  It is only when we give ourselves permission to fail, that we also give ourselves permission to accomplish anything new.

As I think about how I might raise my child, I think, I must teach them to expect to fail, that this is part of the deal.  If we can plan on failure being part of the process, perhaps we will be able to experience less anxiety in our day-to-day lives. Perhaps we will reach beyond our comfort zones more often and in doing so, risk not only failure but the opportunity to live a bigger fuller lives.

Questions to think about:

1.  What would I try if I wasn’t afraid to fail?
2.  What would failing actually look like and am I willing to risk experiencing those repercussions?

Here’s to Living Big!